Gardens in Heaven

Are you familiar with the song
The Grandfather Clock?
The clock stopped, short,
never to go again
when the old man died.

Danny’s garden
is a bit like that.

In his lifetime
Danny’s garden was magnificent.
It truly was a riot of colour.
Danny’s garden
was his life’s work
and a labour of love.
Danny’s garden
was his masterpiece.

Just a week and a half
before he died
Danny took me on a tour of his garden
introducing each plant, tree and shrub
and explaining about the names.

Danny loved his garden!

Danny’s garden started to fade
shortly after he died.
First to go
was the hosta plant
closely followed by
Danny’s beloved lupins,
all devoured by slugs.
Then the red robin tree
that Danny had lovingly shaped and tended
died inexplicably.
And as for the hedge
that surrounds the entire garden,
well, it just struggles on.

It’s almost as if the garden senses
that its caretaker has gone.

These days
when I stand by Danny’s graveside
saying a wee prayer
I always wonder
whether there are gardens in heaven.
I hope that there are!

© Claire Murray, 8th Februay 2016

Danny’s Cactus

Danny at Niamh's First Communion

Danny bought a cactus.
It was small and spikey
with magnificent red flowers
that cascaded down
from thick, dark green leaves.
After a time
the blossoms faded
and all that remained
was a small, plain,
spikey cactus.

Danny placed it carefully
in the garage,
where he occasionally gave it
a teaspoon of water,
insisting
that it would flower again.

When Danny died
Dolores cared for the cactus,
just as Danny had.
After some time
she brought it into her kitchen
and placed it carefully
on the windowsill,
reminding us
that Danny had never given up
on his wee cactus.

Then one day
tiny buds came.
Day by day
they slowly grew
and then opened
until finally
Danny’s cactus
cascaded red, ornate blossoms
once more.

Those blossoms
have since faded
and soon Danny’s cactus
will be returned to the garage.
But now we understand –
Danny’s cactus is faded
but it’s fine;
it’s simply in a phase
of dormancy.

Life, at times,
can be harrowing
and can leave us
feeling drained
and so exhausted
that we have no energy left
to be interested
in anything.
We feel a need
to withdraw
from the world
and, like Danny’s cactus,
we enter a spiritual state
of dormancy.

While we are dormant
Our God continues to care for us,
shielding us,
loving us tenderly,
gently strengthening us
and never giving up on us,
even when we
give up on ourselves.
Eventually
we begin to slowly come to terms
with life
which has, sadly,
changed forever.
We begin to feel ready
to embrace this changed life
and, with the help of Our God,
we blossom once more
just like Danny’s cactus.

© Claire Murray (8th April 2015)

First Anniversary

Lord,
this time last year
pink cherry blossoms floated through the air
like pink snow
and blew into soft, pink piles
along Danny and Dolores’ street.
In Danny and Dolores’s garden
purple blue bells emerged
and the air was filled with bird song.

This time last year
Danny died.
I remember his last days
so clearly.

Sunday morning found Danny
sitting at his kitchen table,
with his ear all bandaged
and a woolly hat on,
busily writing letters and cheques
and discussing how the latest budget
had affected car tax.

Danny was in fine form.

By teatime
Danny wasn’t able to tell
whether it was night time
or morning time
and a family friend, Moya,
who was a nurse,
had to be called.

Danny took to his bed.

Danny spent Monday in bed,
and wanted to know
why his grandchildren hadn’t called
to visit him.

On Tuesday
Danny explained
that he could no longer eat buns
brought from my work.
And Danny met his grandchildren,
giving them their pocket money
and instructing Aoife and Niamh, saying,
“You really should think about
going back to chapel!”

On Wednesday morning
Danny insisted
that Dolores should attend
a dental appointment
at the hospital
and then fretted terribly
during her absence.
When she returned
Dolores lay down beside Danny
and Danny was content.
That night,
a Marie Curie nurse stayed
for the first time.

On Thursday morning
as I walked to work
I received texts from Paul
about how Dolores was chatting away to Danny,
telling him that she and Paul
were his two best friends
(which is true).
Paul also texted to say
that Fr Seán, a family friend,
was on his way
to anoint Danny.
I left work early.

On Friday
I chatted to Danny
as I fed him tiny, tiny spoons of ice cream
that Moya had brought
and I reminded Danny of those times
when I used to call in to see him
after the Mother and Toddler Club
and he would make the dinner for me.
Danny replied,
“Those were the days!”
Those were the last words
that Danny ever spoke to me.
And that evening
Danny had to be moved
into a hospital-type bed.

On Sunday
Danny got the Last Rites
from Fr Robert.

On the bank holiday Monday at tea time
a nurse, Eimear, whispered to Dolores,
that she thought that Danny
had less than 24 hours left.
Before Eimear had left the house,
Danny slipped quietly away
with a wee smile
as Dolores sat by his side,
holding his hand.

Lord,
please bless our wee family
on Danny’s first anniversary
as cherry blossom falls like pink snow
on Dolores’s street
and as blue bells emerge
in Dolores’ garden
while birdsong fills the air.

Lord,
please bless our wee family
on Danny’s first anniversary
as we prepare to hear Danny prayed for at Mass
and as we make final preparations
for Danny’s headstone.

Lord,
please bless our wee family
on Danny’s first anniversary
as we remember a quiet and gentle man
who had unwavering faith
and a deep love
of family, faith and gardening.

Lord,
please bless Danny
on his first anniversary.
May he rest in peace.

© Claire Murray, 2nd May 2015

Life Has Changed

Lord,
life has changed
because Danny’s no longer here
in the kitchen,
in the living room
or in the garden.
Danny’s not even watching GAA matches
in the living room with Paul.

Danny’s gone.

Life has changed
because each day I’m acutely aware
of a huge void
where Danny has been wrenched out
of the lives of Dolores and Paul.

Life has changed
because for the first time
I feel the loss
of someone I loved.

Life has changed
because I have witnessed death.

Life has changed.
I have changed
and yet life goes on
incredibly.

Lord,
please bless Dolores and Paul
in their brave struggle
to pick up the pieces of their lives.
Love them and console them
as they face life that has changed
forever.

© Claire Murray, 23rd May 2014

Every Hair On Your Head

Dolores loves her garden,
especially her fruit trees.
She proudly shows me
which trees have fruit
and even tells me excitedly
how many apples
are on every apple tree
and how many plums
are on the one and only plum tree.
For Dolores,
every single apple and every single plum
is a cause for celebration
and every fruit lost
is lamented.

As I think about this one day
I get a glimpse of what Jesus meant
when He said
that every hair on our head is counted.
I have a sense
that in the eyes of My God
every hair on my head is counted
and is precious.

I sense
that My God watches me with fascination
noting, with interest,
when I make the most
of blessings and gifts
that He has given to me
and lamenting when I neglect to use
other blessings and gifts,
simply takin them for granted.

I have a sense
that My God watches me intently each day
cherishing every aspect of me
and delighting in me
in just the same way
that Dolores delights in every single apple and plum
that grows in her garden.

© Claire Murray, 10 July 2014

Mass on the Radio

Every Saturday evening
Danny and Dolores used go to
to the vigil Mass at St Agnes’
together.
Then, on Sunday morning,
Danny and Dolores used to sit in the kitchen,
listening to Mass on the radio
together.
It was part of how they lived their lives
and it was part of how they shared their faith.

Danny’s gone now
but Sunday mornings still see Dolores
sitting in the kitchen,
now alone,
and listening to Mass on the radio.
This is Dolores’ memorial to Danny
and it helps Dolores to feel connected to Danny
in a special way.

This prompts me to wonder
what I should be doing
in my daily life
to remember Jesus?
What should my memorial to Jesus be?
Then it dawns on me.
Jesus gave us very specific instructions
about how we should remember Him.
Jesus celebrated the first ever Eucharist
at the last supper
and told his disciples
to “do this as a memorial of me”.

To be honest
I am taken aback.
This was practically a death-bed instruction
and was so glaringly obvious –
how could I possibly have missed this before?

Every time we celebrate the Eucharist
we are gifted with the opportunity
to remember Jesus
and to connect with Jesus
in a special way
just like Dolores
when she remembers Danny every Sunday
in a very special way
as she listens to Sunday Mass
on the radio.

© Claire Murray 16th July 2014

Danny Murray RIP

Danny at Niamh's First Communion

Danny was a quiet man
of gentle humour,
tremendous faith
and with a deep love of his family.

Danny battled cancer
for over two years
with courage, dignity and faith.

Last Monday,
while Dolores sat by his side,
Danny slipped peacefully
from this life
into eternity.

May he rest in peace.

© Claire Murray, 11th May 2014

Heavy Shoes

Danny used to be a man
of tremendous energy.
Even late into his seventies
he would spend hours
cleaning cars,
clearing gutters
washing windows,
trimming long hedges,
pruning branches,
topping trees,
planting tomatoes,
fixing paths,
cleaning out fountains,
removing moss,
gathering strawberries.

Danny never seemed to stop.

But Danny’s not well
and he was tired today,
not because of long hours spent
in his beloved garden,
or a long day’s shopping in town.
Danny was tired after a short trip into town
because the shoes he was wearing
were too heavy.

Danny has lost his appetite.
and is losing weight.
He losing sleep
and is losing energy.
He’s losing confidence.
Bit by bit
and day by day,
we’re losing Danny.

© Claire Murray, 29 June 2012

In the Hands of My God

My God is tall and strong.
Usually he walks taking great strides
but today
My God is treading carefully,
his hands cupped together
in front of his chest,
gently carrying something
that is clearly precious to him.

He steps carefully
so as not to disturb
the cherished bundle
that he keeps
close to his heart.

I look closer,
trying to see what My God is carrying
with such tenderness.

It’s Danny.

My God is carrying Danny
with care,
with love,
protecting him,
keeping him safe.

This illness is not something
that Danny has to endure alone.
My God is with Danny
every step of the way,
carrying him.

Danny is safe
in the loving hands of My God.
© Claire Murray, 28 November 2012

Bad News

Lord,
this afternoon the oncologist told Danny
that Danny’s cancer has returned
and that nothing further can be done.
The oncologist shook Danny’s hand,
wished him good luck
and said, “Goodbye”.

We are devastated.

This evening
I enter the chapel at Carraigart
and kneel in the presence
of the Blessed Sacrament.
By the altar
I see a huge, wooden cross.
As I look at you, Lord,
stretched out on that cross
I realise that there is no need for me
to try to describe suffering
to you.
You know all about
the terror of facing what must be.
You know all about
the feeling of helplessness
as you watch the suffering
of those closest to you.
Without me having to tell you,
you know exactly
how Danny, Dolores and Paul feel
right now
in their own personal
Agony in the Garden.

In my mind’s eye
I see myself once more
as your wee girl
and I clamber up
onto your knee,
snuggling in close to you.
“Look after Danny“, I whisper.
“Help Danny to deal with this
and when the time comes,
don’t let him be afraid.”

I feel your arms tighten around me
and I hear you say,
“Claire,
I’ll not leave Danny’s side,
not even for one second.
I’ll be with Danny
and Dolores
and Paul
every step of the way.
I have loved Danny
since before the creation of the world.
I’ll look after Danny for you.
Trust me.”

And in the peace and silence
of the chapel at Carraigart
I kneel
and I find comfort
in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament.

© Claire Murray, 9th July 2013